I rarely read other people's journals. I try to stop in as often as I can to read the highlights of your week, but please don't ever be offended if I am slow to respond to journals when I should or forget to read altogether.
Along that same line of thought, I do not expect people to drool all over my journal, read it religiously, or post comments at all. I am flattered if anyone reads it, ever, period.
I admit I am horribly self-absorbed sometimes. I write in livejournal mainly for my own sake so that I write as often as possible. Often it's little more than drivel about my day and of little import. I have not liked much of how I live my life for a long time, and it's a never-ending battle sometimes to make myself follow the code that I know make me happier.
The desired result of this post is that everyone who is on my list understands that I do try to read your journals but often can't or don't.
Moreover, I have been wanting to increase the more essay-like info I put in here so that it is by nature and form better writing and less like a list of what I have done and need to do.
It is somewhat true that out of sight is out of mind. However, I have not forgotten my friends whom I rarely see, live in another city or another state. I consider friends to be just as much my friends now as they were before even if I do not interact with them on a daily basis. My friendship is not fickle nor is it any less loyal for not having seen the subject in many weeks.
I had a discussion with Mandis many months ago while on DAoC. Some of the people that I consider friends might not really know me very well or I might have changed from their original opinion of me. In such a case, we never really close and probably just hung out together in the same groups or were involved in the same games and I didn't consider them a close confidant or companion, but more a friend whose company I merely enjoyed (the most casual of friends).
A great deal of knowing a person is getting past that initial impression and mold that you've assigned them. When a person acts contrary to what you expected, they're not always acting weird but could be just being themselves and you've never noticed that part of them before.
In the end, I want people to know this. The fact that I don't come visit often (you live a rather decent drive away for just a casual hanging out session or just watching you play a table-top game I'm not involved in and only hear about from EverRaven), doesn't mean that I consider you any less of a friend as I did before. When I spent a short hour talking to Glover for the first time again in ages one Sunday afternoon, I was in a way slightly thrilled that I could still have fun just chilling with him.
Friendship isn't always equal, just as all relationships can easily become lopsided in affection or caring or feelings. I don't expect people to consider me a friend as much as I do, nor do I expect to be chummy with me when we were never chummy in the first place but rather just enjoyed each other's company in a large group. However, it doesn't lessen my interest in your lives and my desire to either strengthen certain friends, maintain friendships, or lessen the strength of others. Egos can get a little stung, but it's a part of growing up and growing apart, as well as deciding how you want to spend the precious commodity of time.
I've covered a lot of bases here and probably not explained myself well in much of it.